The divorce rate for second marriages is higher than for first marriages - some sixty percent of second marriages end in divorce. When I think about the challenges of blending not just two adults but two sets of children, it doesn't surprise me. My current guest, Missy got remarried recently. Her second husband has two teenage daughters so together they have five children. … [Read more...]
Shuttling Between Two Homes
The presumption in divorce these days is shared parenting and with the prevailing shift to 50/50 parenting, it means kids are shuttling between two homes frequently. My present guest, Missy has three children who were aged two, four and six at the time of her divorce. That was three years ago and since then they've learned a few things about having two homes besides the … [Read more...]
Accepting Your Child’s Other Parent
Your spouse may now be your ex but for your children, your ex is their parent. Seeing your ex as the other parent brings a different, important insight to your parenting. My current guest, Missy has three children who were aged two, four and six at the time of her divorce. Seeing her ex from her children's perspective allows her to see his importance to them. Here's … [Read more...]
Telling Your Kids About Your Divorce
There are lots of hard conversations that come with divorce. One of them is telling your kids about your divorce. While the moment may become permanently etched in your mind, the same is not necessarily true for your children provided you do it right. My current guest, Missy had three children who were aged two, four and six at the time of her divorce. Here's Missy: We … [Read more...]
9 Ways To Get Through The Holidays With A Defiant Child
by Kim Abraham LMSW and Marney Studaker-Cordner LMSW Do you have a picture of what the holidays should look like? Most of us do whether we admit it or not. When the reality doesn’t match the expectation you have in your head, it feels awful. Parents of acting-out kids know this firsthand, because the reality so often doesn’t match their expectation. If you go into the … [Read more...]