How your children will react to your divorce is a common and valid concern. Many of us hope for some indication that they understand the situation, even if the specific details behind the breakup are not shared. That acknowledgement can lessen any guilt about the end of your marriage and can also be reassuring that it was the right decision. But don't expect that understanding … [Read more...]
Would You Vacation With Your Ex?
Vacationing with your ex would probably raise a few eyebrows and have friends and family wondering exactly what was going on but for some people, there may be good reason to take that family vacation together. My current guest, INRIS and his ex are both from the East, both still have family there and so there's the real possibility of a family trip together. Here's … [Read more...]
The Model Post-Divorce Family
Used to be that kids whose parents divorced came from a 'broken home,' from a 'broken family.' Thankfully, I hear those terms less and less because we're all realizing that divorce doesn't break a family. It rearranges it. So today's post-divorce family looks and behaves very differently. INRIS has been divorced now for about three years. He and his ex committed to doing … [Read more...]
Where To Live After Divorce: Location, Location, Location
At some point in the divorce process, either you or your STBX or even both of you are going to have to move and the Realtors are right: it's all about location. Except that it isn't about property value. Where you both choose to live will have an enormous and profound impact on your children. When INRIS and his wife were splitting up they were committed to doing what was … [Read more...]
Perfect Parents Do Not Exist: Forgive Yourself These 6 Parenting Mistakes
by Sara Bean, M.Ed. Guilt and parenthood just seem to go together. Maybe you lost control and screamed at your child today, or perhaps you’re struggling to give your kids enough—or you might be worrying that you’re doing too much. Whatever the cause, most parents experience guilt regularly. I’ve talked with so many people who were beating themselves up over something … [Read more...]