The aftermath of divorce is often a frenzy of activity - some of it related to children, some of it self-imposed medication against the hurt and some of it caused by the rush to a new life. In this guest post, author Abbey Algiers shares her discovery of the beauty in slowing down. Here's Abbey: It has been ten years since my divorce. I have since healed, moved on, and am … [Read more...]
The Best Sex Of Your Life
Whenever the topic of dating after divorce comes up, so does sex. While some separated couples continue to have sex, for the overwhelming majority of people I've interviewed by the time divorce was on the horizon, sex with their spouse happened rarely if ever and if it did happen it wasn't very satisfying. And that can lead to some mixed expectations about intimacy with a new … [Read more...]
Learning to Speak Up For Yourself
Speaking up for yourself is essential for self-care but many of us learn in childhood that doing so can mean penalties, such as the loss of a friendship or being the object of teasing. Sometimes, making yourself heard is such a competition you decide not to compete. Either way it involves a decision at some level that your own needs are not a priority. My current guest … [Read more...]
Who Pays On First Dates?
Whenever the topic of dating after divorce comes up, so does the question of who pays. More specifically, who pays on the first date. I'm a little confused by this myself which is probably why I like to ask my interviewees for their philosophy. It's not a clear cut issue for me but more about my confusion later. First, here's my current guest, Elizabeth: He pays on the first … [Read more...]
Use Your Job Hunting Skills For Dating
I've said it before. Dating after divorce is scary. It's scary because none of us were born knowing how to date. Some people seem to learn quickly and are adept daters by their early twenties. Others, and this includes yours truly, never feel particularly skilled and then after years of marriage are at loss as to how to approach the whole endeavor. My current guest, Elizabeth … [Read more...]