Divorce is scary. It’s scary because it’s unfamiliar to most of us. It’s also scary because it has a way of stripping away all our protective layers. Divorce makes you face the truth about yourself:
I feel that’s a great thing divorce does – it makes you really face truth, whatever that truth is for you. I had to face my own demons. I had a ton of fear, a ton of insecurity, very low self-esteem, very hard on myself, which made it very difficult for me to believe in myself and believe that I can do this and I can be a single parent. ~ Suzy
Suzy was married for thirteen years. The marriage was virtually void of any physical or emotional intimacy and her health was suffering because of that. In considering divorce Suzy had to weigh her seemingly glamorous lifestyle, her church’s opposition to divorce against what her faith really meant to her and how she wanted to live her life.
The Divorce Coach Says:
This is a part of divorce that no one appreciates going into it because ending a marriage is such a challenge both emotionally and logistically.
It’s not like other challenges you voluntarily sign up for, like running a marathon or hiking a fourteener. But what it does have in common with those other challenges is that when it’s over, when you’re through the major upheaval, you can look back and you’ll see the obstacles you faced and how you’ve changed.
You have a choice – you can use the challenges to help you change in positive ways such as becoming a better parent or making your needs a priority or becoming more comfortable dealing with conflict or you can let the challenges make you less of a person … becoming bitter, seeking revenge, closing yourself off emotionally.
What will you choose?