Couples counseling or couples therapy is a standard recommendation for anyone whose marriage is in trouble. That does require a commitment from both partners and that isn’t going to work when one partner has already decided they’re done.
He had made up his mind that this marriage was not where he wanted to be. He wasn’t willing to work on it, he wasn’t willing to fight for it, he just wanted out. ~ Judy
Judy and her husband had been married for some twenty-eight years when her husband started to talk about a divorce and wanting to move out. She had no desire to end the marriage but came home one day to find him gone.
I’m a firm believer that there is a line that when crossed means it isn’t possible to save the marriage, the problems are too entrenched and at least one of the partners lacks the desire or the ability to work on the relationship. In some cases, giving the partner time and space to figure things out can pave the way for a reconciliation but more typically, the only option open to the other partner is to accept that the marriage is over. And that is hard.