Many people who experience divorce look back over their relationship and reflect that there were red flags, warning signs that it wouldn’t end well.
I was looking for love and chose to suppress those things that I saw thinking that maybe everything would work out and be OK. It was just wanting to be loved and to be in a marriage relationship again. I’m not an idiot but sometimes we do things when we want to find love and we want someone to love us back. We just ignore things. ~ Rhoda
Rhoda found herself in her fifties and starting over. She’d remarried in her late forties after a whirlwind romance and was married for six years when her husband left her in financial ruin. With hindsight, she says there were red flags while they were dating that the relationship wouldn’t work.
The benefit of this sort of introspection – understanding why you made the decision you did, is so that you hopefully will learn and not make the same choice again. It’s not about beating yourself or regretting the decision you made: none of that can be changed. But you can change your future.
Were there red flags you missed?