Deciding to divorce is scary and often times we look to other people to validate or confirm our decision before moving ahead. That often doesn’t happen:
While my mother wanted to be supportive, she didn’t say the right words. She never said, “You need to get out. Just do it.” She would just say. “I’m always there to support you.” I didn’t know what that meant and I didn’t have anyone to say, “You’ve got to do it.” ~ Helen
Helen was a successful career woman when she married and became a stay-at-home mom to take care of one her children who had special needs. From the beginning the marriage was characterized with constant battles and fights; Helen says she never knew what was going to upset her husband or set him off. She felt trapped in her marriage and it took her many years to find the courage to leave.
Having a close friend or family member with whom you can discuss your marital problems and evaluate the possibility of divorce is priceless. However, only you (or your spouse) can make the decision. You have to own that decision and if you can’t decide, it’s a sign that you’re not ready for the road ahead.