When your marriage is ending or is deeply troubled, don’t be surprised to find yourself thinking, “I lost myself in my marriage.”
In my marriage, I had really lost myself. I had lost my confidence and I had allowed myself to believe that I wasn’t capable of many things. So it was almost surprising that I could make decisions, that I could stand up for myself, that I could make do with less. ~ Missy
Missy was married for thirteen years and was in her mid-thirties when she divorced. She regards regaining her sense of self and her confidence to make decisions alone and to parent alone as her most significant accomplishments since her divorce.
The Divorce Coach Says
It’s frightening to look in the mirror and not recognize the person you’re seeing but if it’s any comfort, I hear this from many people and experienced it myself.
The good news is that once you realize you no longer know or don’t like the person you’ve become you’re already on the path to change. Even better, unlike going through divorce, rediscovering yourself is fun and invigorating.
You can get started by downloading my free report, 14 Ways To Get To Know Yourself. You’ll find lots of great suggestions and they may even inspire you to think of others.