Marriage is about making a public commitment to another person and perhaps there is no symbol more public than your wedding and engagement rings. Similarly, removing your wedding rings tells the world that that commitment is no more. But then what? What do you do with these symbols of marriage when it’s all over?
In this sponsored post, Craig Richards, with The Diamond Valet shares how some of his customers have reacted to divorce:
You likely vividly remember the joy in receiving your diamond engagement ring from your fiancé. But now, the joy is replaced by all of the emotions surrounding your divorce. And yet, the diamond ring remains. What was once a symbol of love and happiness has quickly become a bittersweet or even harsh reminder of love lost. And as the days and months go by, the diamond ring just sits in your drawer, in a night table or in your jewelry box.
Ask yourself – why am I holding on to this symbol of lost love? If the marriage is over, and the love is gone, why am I holding onto a reminder of the past?
As a fourth generation jeweler, I have worked with many divorced customers to help them get past the emotional roller coaster of considering the sale of their diamond ring. Let’s face it, a diamond ring is an asset. And, if the marriage is over, the asset can be put to positive use. I’ve had customers use the proceeds from their diamond rings for tuition for children, household expenses and even legal expenses.
Many of my customers are hesitant to sell the last remainder of what was once a happy and joyous time. After all, the diamond engagement ring is typically the first tangible symbol of love a man conveys to his future bride. It is the culmination of the courtship and traditionally symbolizes the love you have for each other. These emotions and symbols can be very difficult to detach from after a divorce is finalized.
However, in my years of experience I have come to understand that once the diamond ring is sold, the feelings of loss and sadness are quickly replaced by a feeling of satisfaction with having moved on from an unhappy experience. Quite frankly, some of my customers are more than happy to finally move on by selling the engagement ring. I’ve even had customers literally throw the ring at me!
Over the years, I’ve had many of my divorced customers tell me that once they sold the diamond engagement ring, it was like the shackles were unlocked and all of the emotions tied to the ring were swept away. The feeling of release from this symbol of love for your former partner can indeed be very satisfying. I’ve seen it happen right in front of me on countless occasions.
At our company, The Diamond Valet, we take the time to understand all of the sentiment and emotions our customers feel during and after the divorce process. We actually listen. We know the difficulties our customers face during a painful, life-changing event. While we like to buy diamonds, we also feel the need to make sure our customers understand our buying process to feel confident in their decision to move on.
The Diamond Valet is a first class diamond buying service. We are GIA (Gemological Institue of America) Graduate Gemologists with decades of experience in the global diamond industry. We’ve bought diamonds from .01 to 10.0+ carat weight from our customers over the years, and we have the expertise to carefully evaluate any diamond sent to our offices.
The Divorce Coach Says
Craig asks a very valid and important question here – do you truly understand why you’re holding onto your engagement ring? Is it sitting in your jewelry box because you don’t know what to do with it or have forgotten about it, or is it sitting there because you’re still grieving the loss of your marriage?
I’m not saying you should run out and sell it now – I’m just saying that understanding why you still have it will help you understand where you are in divorce recovery process. Unless you need the money, there’s no urgency to making a decision – you’ll know when you’re ready to part with it.
BTW – My engagement ring was a sapphire with two diamonds – I had it reset into a ring that doesn’t look like an engagement ring and I do wear it. I’ve always loved sapphires.
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