I was recently invited to collaborate on an expert panel and share some insights on how cope with divorce. Here are my best tips:
My first tip is not to rush into the legal process, unless you have to.
Your spouse is already well into the grieving process and has probably been preparing for the legal process for some time.
They’re emotionally ready for this. You’re not and this puts you at a disadvantage. You need to level the playing field and one way to do that is by giving yourself time.
If your spouse is pushing to move forward with the legal process, you can say to them that you’re not ready and ask that they consider delaying for a few months.
If your spouse is unwilling to wait and wants to move ahead or if you need to file to protect yourself, then you will need to find an attorney to represent you.
When things are moving fast then trying to save money by doing this yourself (such as using an online service, a mediated divorce or even unbundled or a la carte legal services) is likely to end up costing you in the long run.
*Indicators of needing to file to protect yourself include the presence domestic abuse, the need for access to marital funds, your spouse attempting to hide money or to use marital assets for non-marital purposes and your spouse removing you from health insurance coverage.
You can read the full article here: How to Cope with Divorce