Although Marjorie’s divorce is not final and she’s still working with temporary custody arrangements, she is hard at work building the life she wants and being the person she was meant to be. Here’s Marjorie:
[contemplate1]I met a lot of single moms in the jail who are there because either a boyfriend or a husband or some man in their life, had some effect on their life that brought them to that point. I talked to these women, and when they leave the jail, they have no place to go, too. This happens so often. I was thinking this was a new thing for me, but no, there are women this is happening to all the time.
Talking to the women in jail that night, it was not only helpful for them, but it was helpful for me. I said that night that I was going to come back, and I’m working on that now, through a jail ministry, helping them to look at what they want to do with their life once they get out of jail, once they get out of the cycle of drug abuse, or whatever the case may be, and trying to use that.
What I’m able to do is really connect with these women and try to help them, putting my talents and abilities to use as a coach and try to help them see beyond this situation, beyond this temporary situation that we’re in, because that’s what you have to realize: this is temporary, and as long as you keep fighting for your child, fighting for your rights, fighting for your future, then you’ve got a chance.
You can bring everything that you want out of life, you can bring that to pass. So, I’ve been able to use that as a way to keep me moving forward. Sometimes I don’t feel strong, but that’s the way that I keep myself going. I’m looking towards the future. I’m building the life that I’ve always wanted for myself and my girls. I’m building that life now. That’s keeping me going.
The thing that I’m proud of is that I didn’t lose my mind, which I’m sure is what he was counting on. I’m sure he did not feel that I was going to be strong enough to get as far as I have gotten, and that he would be the only person I would come back to, but I proved a lot to myself, that I can do this, I really can do this, and I’m doing it from scratch.
I’ve surprised myself because this thing is a day-to-day thing. It’s so hard to plan. I can visualize what I want for my future, but I can’t really plan. I’m surprised how I have been able to visualize and manifest some things. In another respect, I have this internal knowing that I’ve always known that this is what I wanted for my life, that this was the path I wanted to take. That’s one of the reasons I knew I had to get out of that marriage, because that marriage was a bit of a block from me moving forward.
Before I separated I was in the foundational part of building the The Single Mom Revolution and it’s just taken on a deeper mission and meaning now for me more than ever, because I’m really doing it not just as having previously been a single mother, and married, but I’m doing it as a single mom and I’m doing it from a place where I’m starting all over again. There’s a great testimony in what I’ve been able to overcome.
I love Marjorie’s indomitable spirit and belief in herself and her willingness to help others.
When I first spoke with Marjorie, she interviewed me for her Single Mom Revolution. I had no idea at that time that her own situation was heading for such troubled times. Marjorie’s new website is now live – Marjorie Bostwick – with a business as an Exit Strategist. Her niche is helping single mompreneurs trapped in a 9 to 5 world, build their businesses to a profitable position. I hadn’t heard the phrase ‘exit strategist’ before but I like it. Knowing Marjorie’s persistence and perseverance, she’d be a great addition to your support team.
This is the last post in Marjorie’s series – I’m grateful to her for sharing her story so far. I hope you’ll join me in wishing Marjorie continued strength and courage at her child custody hearing coming up. I hope that she is reunited with her youngest daughter.