Or is it? You might be dreading the upcoming holiday season, which actually has already begun. Since your divorce, this has been something you might have given a lot of thought to, because all you can think about is how tense and awkward the entire ordeal will be. If you have an attorney who provides you with child custody help in Scottsdale you will probably be turning to them for advice. If they’re good, they’ll tell you to set all differences aside, which is exactly what you should be doing. Remember your priority: the children.
Work according to your bank account
When you were married, you both had a shared household income. This might have allowed you two to buy some pretty expensive gifts for your kids during the holidays. Throwing those extravagant parties and buying the new PlayStation 4 is probably going to be out of the question.
Do not make things bad for yourself by trying to spend on the holidays like you used to. Talk to your children and make them understand how the financial situation has changed and how their expectations this holiday should change as well.
Don’t be afraid to be completely honest with them if you are short of cash. Seize the moment to tell them about how important responsibility and money management are. Get creative as well. Show your kids cheap ways in which everyone can have the best time ever, such as family clubs, pillow forts, board games and caroling on the streets.
Traditions will change
This is a given. You can’t have the same traditions that your family used to have when it was complete. New traditions have to be invented for the new family unit. However, don’t think “out with the old, in with the new”.
Instead, try to find the perfect balance between age-old family traditions and the new ones you can come up with. As parents, put aside all your enmity and animosity and think about one thing: your kids. Try to make the holidays as easy a time for them as you can.
Let them know that even though you aren’t together anymore you both still love them more than anything in the world. It doesn’t matter if your kids have kids of their own. Show them that your divorce doesn’t mean they will have a broken family and a shattered household.
Chin up, buttercup!
Stay strong. There is nothing more devastating to both parties than a bad divorce. The image that the two of you had built up for the perfect family Christmas and thanksgiving will be all but gone. You need to swallow that lump in your throat and push through it.
It doesn’t matter if anyone was at fault for the divorce to happen. It is still a mind-numbing experience for everybody. Make sure that you and your ex talk to each other about how you are both going to work through it. Happy Holidays!
This is a sponsored post from the Canterbury Law Group.