It’s not usually hard to spot an engagement ring – even from a distance, they have that styling. You know what I mean. And that styling looks and feels great when you’re in love but when the marriage is over, most people don’t want to keep wearing a ring that announces to everyone, “I’m married.” So you take the ring off, put it away somewhere. You know it’s there and as long as it’s there, it’s a reminder of what was and what could have been. It doesn’t have to be that way. There are still ways your engagement ring could make you happy after divorce.
My engagement ring was pretty traditional from an English standpoint – it was an oval-shaped sapphire that was mounted with a diamond on either side. I stopped wearing it some years before my marriage ended because one of the prongs was broken. That I wasn’t bothered about getting it repaired I think was symbolic of our marriage. If someone asked about my engagement ring, it was easy to say that it was broken and there were no more questions.
I don’t remember the precise timing of this – it happened organically or subconsciously. It was before we divorced, before we’d separated and probably as I was starting to see divorce as an option. At some point I did decide to get the stones reset into a ring that didn’t look like an engagement ring. I don’t remember discussing my plans with my husband and I don’t think I asked his opinion of the setting I chose – that was probably also symbolic of my growing independence and confidence.
That was back in 2006. I still wear my ring, always on my right hand. I still think of it as a symbol of commitment. However now, it’s about committing to my true self.
So what will you do with your engagement ring? Good news is you have choices.
Sell The Engagement Ring and/or Diamond
Rather than keeping your ring hidden away in a drawer somewhere, consider selling it. Letting go of it could bring you some much needed therapeutic relief and if you’re likely to be moving, there’s always the danger that your ring could get lost – that’s what happened to my wedding band.
Most of people I know, always appreciate some extra cash and that’s exactly what your ring represents. Even as you read this, I bet you can come up with four or five different ways to spend that cash … paying your attorney, buying a car, paying off a credit card, taking a vacation … You can be smart about how you use most of it but there’s nothing wrong with spending a least some of it on a treat for yourself.
If you think selling your ring is right for you, you’ll want to explore your options and be sure you’re getting it’s true worth. An easy way to get an idea of your ring’s value is to check with your local jeweler or pawn shop. The second – and easier – way to sell your wedding and engagement rings after a divorce is to use an online auction site that specializes in selling jewelry like the rings that represent your old life. You don’t have to do any work or take your rings anywhere in hope of unloading them. Instead, you simply go to the website, enter a little information, and see if you like the initial offer you receive. If so, you can move forward with the auction.
The site’s name – Worthy – is easy to remember. It’s a online auction house that provides free appraisals and sells your rings for you within about 24 hours of the auction starting. If you’re like so many women who need to a place to sell their rings, give Worthy a try. It really is effortless, and will help you in more ways than one.
Turn The Diamond Into Another Piece of Jewelry
If you aren’t sure that you want to sell your diamond, you can do what I did and have your stones reset into another ring or another piece of jewelry such as a necklace, bracelet or earrings. This isn’t going to generate any cash for you – it will probably cost you money but if you like the stones and have positive emotions attached to them, this may be a good option.
Wear The Ring on Your Right Hand
There’s no rule that says you can’t keep your ring so if you love your ring the way it is, keep wearing it. In American culture, we wear our wedding rings on the left hand so you might want to switch to wearing your ring on your right hand or on a different finger.
Give The Ring to Your Children
Mothers often pass down fine jewelry to a daughter or grand-daughter. I had both my mother’s and grandmother’s wedding bands and also my mother’s engagement ring. My ex had his mother’s engagement ring. We combined his mother’s stone with my mother’s wedding band to create a beautiful pendant for my daughter’s 21st birthday. It’s not just a piece of jewelry – it’s a symbol of my daughter’s heritage and regardless of the end of our marriage, she’s here because of me and my husband. The options here are endless.
Probably the most important advice I can give you is try not to make this decision when you’re under pressure or quickly. Certainly, if you sell the stones or gift the ring to your children, you can’t change your mind. So think it through and be sure whatever decision you make is right for you.
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